You must be kidding right?

Yesterday was the worst day yet in my classroom. The teacher was in annual review meetings and the class aides and I were working with reading groups. The expected child tantrum happened and the class fell apart, this time much worse than I have ever seen it. Our student who usually goes after the child in question blew up so badly that he was screaming until he almost threw up. He was read in the face shaking and sweating and his aide was restraining him as best she could. The tantrum girl was removed bodily by the security guard and not only were the other students freaking out but one of our aides was in tears. We pulled some of the students out of corners and one particular student that never pays attention to any of this was sobbing. This is what broke our hearts. It just so happened that tantrum girls mother was here for her annual review and so the behaviorilist quickly brought her back to the class. She gave her to me and said "she is calm now and look how mature she is". She was petting her hair and telling how good she was. I can not remember the last I had been so angry. It just was so unfair in so many ways. The message that was loud and clear was not a good one. "Act out all you want". Well I made it through the rest of the day and I am glad that I have a week off to do a lot of deep breathing and praying. They are not helping this girl or her mother who believes it is just a phase she is going through.